Making My Husband Love Me
How to Make Your Husband Fall in Love With You Again
Single women tend to think that married women have it all. We’re the ones who are lucky enough to have a husband and a stable life. The only problem with that is that relationships change over time and if you are like me, you may even reach a point where you question whether your husband is still “in love” with you. It’s stressful and frustrating being in a marriage and feeling as though your husband has lost his passion for you.
When I first realized this was happening in my marriage I tried everything I could think of to renew his feelings for me. I tried to lose weight, I cooked the dinners he liked, and I even planned weekend getaways for just the two of us, without the kids. He’d thank me for the effort, but the dynamic of the relationship wasn’t changing at all.
It reached a point where I began to fear that he was going to ask me for a divorce. My married friends all had their own words of wisdom to offer to me to get my husband to fall back in love. I quickly realized that taking advice from women who didn’t seem all that happily married wasn’t something I needed to be doing.
I’m not sure why I didn’t realize sooner if I wanted to get my husband to fall in love with me again – to treat me the way he did when we first met and married –I had to regain access to his heart and make myself irresistible to him again.
I wanted my marriage to thrive and be fulfilling for both me and my husband again. I knew that he wasn’t happy and I also knew that he wasn’t doing anything to remedy the situation.
If you love your husband and you want to make him fall in love with you again – you need to start understanding how to appeal to his personal desires, wishes, fears and passions. Once you are able to fully understand this, you’ll have him falling all over you again.
My husband and I are now happier than ever – he tells me over and over again everyday how much he loves me and more importantly he shows it.
What Won’t Rekindle His Love For You
Mistakes Wives Must Avoid
Being a wife certainly doesn’t mean that you have to be perfect all of the time. Sometimes we feel that way though, especially if we fear that our husbands don’t love us the same way anymore. In an effort to rekindle the love in the relationship you may be tempted to try 
just about anything. Some things can actually damage your relationship even further.
Here’s a list of things you should avoid doing if you want to make your husband fall in love with you again:
Force him to talk about his feelings. Most of us married women have been in a situation where we’ve nagged our husbands into talking to us about his feelings. This rarely goes well and most men will simply state that they have nothing to say. If you continually try and get your husband to open up about his feelings, when he doesn’t want to, you are creating even more of a distance between the two of you.
Compare him to your friends’ husbands. Nothing kills a man’s ego more than being compared to another man. If you insist on talking about how much your friend’s husband loves her and how you wish for that in your marriage, you are going to make your husband feel inadequate. If he feels inadequate when it comes to loving you, he’s going to give up trying. NEVER compare your husband to another man for any reason.
Assume your husband can read your mind. We all wish we had a husband who was empathetic and could anticipate what we are feeling. If you feel that your husband is losing interest in you and falling out of love with you, he likely has no clue that you are experiencing that. Being sad and acting quiet around him will not help him to see what the issue is. Don’t be hurt if he doesn’t have insight into what you are feeling.
If you want your marriage to turn around, if you dream about the day your husband falls deeply in love with you again, you need to realize what you have to do to change that. The power to make your husband love you again is in your hands – not his.
My Review of ‘What Husbands Can’t Resist’
This Book Saved My Marriage
Trying to understand what your husband is thinking and feeling is virtually impossible. It’s very difficult to sustain a relationship
when you don’t even know if your husband is still in love with you.
In my journey to make my husband fall in love with me again, I did some research. I read virtually everything I could get my hands on that dealt with marriage. Then I found Bob Grant’s What Husbands Can’t Resist – Powerful Insights That Will Make Him Want to Marry You All Over Again.
What Husbands Can’t Resist is written by Bob Grant, also known as “The Relationship Doctor.” One of the drawbacks with many of the other relationship guides I read was that they were written by women. I really felt I needed a man’s point of view. If I wanted to understand how to appeal to my husband, a man would be the person to tell me that.
What Husbands Can’t Resistgives you priceless insight into how your husband thinks and what you can do to reignite his love for you. You’ll learn what you can do today to completely transform your relationship and have your husband more crazy about you than the first day you met.
If you want your husband to cater to your every need and if you want to be the most important thing in the world to him – read the book. Use the book as a guide, follow it and embrace it. It will change the way your husband feels about you forever.
In addition to the book you’ll also get a 15 minute telephone consultation with Bob Grant. You can ask him anything about your relationship with your husband and he’ll give you his honest opinion. This in itself is invaluable.
Other Helpful Resources
Tools to Help Wives
Sexless Marriage Help If your husband has lost his interest in intimacy and it’s affecting your relationship, find out what you can do to fix the situation now.
Do You Suspect Your Husband is Cheating? If you have suspicions that your husband’s lack of interest in your marriage stems from his involvement with another woman, find out the truth today. Very effective book.
Get Your Husband to Love You Advice
Gillian’s Weekly Marriage Tip
January 1, 2012 – No one is perfect, including your husband. You already know that and if you’re like most married women, you’ve let your husband know about the things he does that you find imperfect. Nagging comes with the territory when you’re married. It’s almost impossible not to push your husband to change or to do things if he seems disinterested in it. Those small annoyances can cause a bitter rift between you and the man you adore. One of the best pieces of advice any married woman can take is to let the small stuff slide. If you allow all the small things that your husband does to ignore you to get to you, you’ll end up creating more conflict than you want. Obviously if communication has broken down in your marriage or you feel your husband is being unfaithful, you need to address things. If he’s leaving the toothpaste cap off or not refilling the car after he’s used it, think twice before reminding him about those things more than once. Pick your conflicts wisely and you’ll find there’s more harmony in your house.
My Husband Takes Me for Granted! The Right Way to Deal With This
“I feel like my husband takes me for granted!” You’ve said it, likely more than once, yes? I know that because I’ve felt the very same thing within my own marriage, as have most women. When a couple has been together for a time it’s almost inevitable that the dynamic between them will begin to shift. As women, we tend to take on more family responsibility including worrying over the children’s needs and ensuring the household is running smoothly. Unfortunately, as we’re focused on that our husbands may become more focused on their own lives. They get caught up in work or their personal friendships and we start to feel emotionally neglected. If you feel that your husband is taking you for granted, don’t allow this to continue. It can actually result in a wedge of resentment in your marriage that is very hard to overcome.
Obviously, if you’re like most women, you’re first inclination is going to be to talk with your husband about what you’re feeling. Communication is the cornerstone to a happy and balanced marriage, right? We all know this but in practice it’s not always the case. If your husband is oblivious to the fact that he is indeed taking you for granted, he’s going to be offended when you bring the subject up. Depending on his mood and how his day went, he may actually resent the fact that you feel this way. The problem is that if your husband is already feeling his own stress related to his work or his life in general, and you start telling him that you don’t feel he’s appreciating you enough, all he’ll likely hear within that is that he’s a bad husband. His defences will go up and you’ll find yourself on the losing end of a battle of the wills.
Most men just aren’t as empathetic as their female partners. You may have already noticed that with your own husband. Often, for a woman, it becomes boldly apparent after she’s given birth or the first time she becomes ill. Her husband doesn’t jump to become her personal nurse. In fact, he doesn’t offer the same selfless support that she does when he is feeling under the weather. The reasoning behind this is quite simple. Your husband just doesn’t picture himself in your shoes the same way you do with him. That’s why you need to approach the issue of feeling underappreciated in just the right way.
How to Make Your Husband Appreciate You Again
Begin by choosing a time to talk about what you’re feeling when you know your husband is feeling relaxed and happy. Tell him how much you love and appreciate him. Use examples when you are doing this. If you feel that he’s incredibly patient with the children, tell him as much. If you admire how hard he works to provide for the family, mention that. Your goal is to make him feel that you really do love him and need him. If you start off like this, the rest of the conversation will go much more smoothly.
Then explain that you have been feeling overwhelmed by all the responsibility that you’ve taken on. Never suggest that he has thrown all those tasks at you. If you do that, he’ll instantly see it as an attack on his character as a man and a husband. If you instead confess to trying to be superwoman and now realizing that you’re not, he’ll want to swoop in and be your own personal super hero. I’ve found it helpful to bring up 
the idea of looking for outside help in the form of a nanny or cleaning person. Most men would rather use any money directed for some domestic help for themselves so they’ll quickly volunteer to help.
Brighten up when he suggests this and tell him again what a wonderful partner he truly is. If your husband feels as though it’s his idea to help you more, he’ll be more inclined to follow through. Once you feel that he’s contributing, those emotions that have been connected to feeling taken for granted will begin to disappear.
Unfortunately, everything isn’t always black and white within any marriage. Sometimes you definitely have to think outside the box if you want the relationship to progress to a point where you feel appreciated and valued. Just remember, that by working together, you and your husband will both feel loved and cherished.
There is a guaranteed way to make your husband love you more. Your marriage can be everything you want it to be.
My Husband Seems Unhappy! Dealing With This The Right Way
In order for a marriage to be truly fulfilling, both partners have to be emotionally invested in making it work. If you’ve been married for some time you know that your husband may go through patches where he just doesn’t seem as happy as he once did. It’s typically the same for us as women. However, most of us have the inclination to talk about what is bothering us. It’s very hard to balance unhappiness, or feelings of discontent with everything else we have going on. Men tend to approach their emotions in a much different way. It’s not uncommon for a man to hold everything inside. If your husband is unhappy, you’re obviously going to be quite concerned.
There are many different reasons why your husband may seem unhappy. It’s natural for a woman to carry the burden of her husband’s moods. Nature has gifted women with an inclination to want to fix emotional issues. If our children are arguing we tend to step in the middle of it to iron out the differences. We think nothing of being the referee. To an extent it’s the same with our marriages. If we sense something is amiss we’ll work hard to remedy it, as in the case of a husband who doesn’t seem satisfied anymore.
Is Your Husband Unhappy With Your Marriage or Is It Something Else?
Before you jump to the conclusion that your husband is unhappy with you or your marriage you need to either speak with him about it or do a little pre-conversation detective work. Women are notorious for launching into an emotional discussion without any warm-up. We do it all the time with our husbands. We are emotionally prepared for the conversation, but we don’t have all our ammunition ready to go. Hence the reason you can feel strong and secure in bringing up a subject with your husband, yet when he says one thing that disagrees with your opinion or agenda, you fall apart. It happens to all of us at one point.
If you’re not completely convinced that your husband’s unhappiness is a result of discord in your marriage, start asking him some pointed questions. Inquire about how his work is going, ask about his important friendships. Maybe he’s nearing mid-life and he’s feeling the pinch of Father Time creeping up behind him. Men become moody for any number of reasons and they don’t always express those openly with their wives. If you can get a better handle on what he’s dealing with at the moment, you’ll be able to better evaluate where his unhappiness is coming from.
When you do talk with him about it take a compassionate stance. Don’t be accusatory and try and be empathetic. Men have just as many emotional struggles as we do and every man wants his wife to be his safe haven in the world of emotional storms. If you are understanding and reasonable, he’s going to feel all that more comfortable opening up to you on a continual basis.
If he does confess to being unhappy with the state of the marriage, don’t take it personally. Marriage is work, even though we all 
want the world around us to believe our marriage is effortless. Scope out a plan that you both can contribute to that will bring your marriage back to a healthier and happier place. It may mean giving up some of your “me” time to spend more of it with your husband. Perhaps it’s more about talking to him about his own life. The solution may even involve dating again and reconnecting on a very basic level as a couple.
If your marriage is important to you and you adore your husband, put in the effort needed to get the relationship back to where you both want it to be. With the right insight, effort and plan, you can actually get your husband to want to make you happy all the while finding his fulfillment in that.
My marriage wasn’t always as fulfilling as it is now, I share my personal story here. I invite you to read it to find out how I made my husband love me more than ever.
My Husband Thinks He Wants a Divorce! What Do I Do Now?
“Gillian, my husband thinks he wants a divorce!” I get emails that begin this way on a weekly basis. It’s always very difficult to read the words of a woman who is holding onto the threads of a marriage that is coming apart at the seams. Hearing your husband express his desire to end the marriage is obviously devastating. Suddenly, the life that you’ve been living becomes questionable and you have no idea what the future will hold for you. Before you decide to give in to his desire to end the marriage, there are some things that you absolutely must consider.
Before you jump to the foregone conclusion that your husband doesn’t love you anymore, consider when he expressed his desire to divorce. There is a fundamental difference between a man who shouts out in frustration that he wants a divorce compared to a man who says it when the relationships seems calm and quiet. During an argument, emotions can become very heated and a man can search for a way to cause his wife to feel pain. Bringing up the subject of divorce is a guaranteed way to do just that. That’s why you must be fully aware of what caused him to say it. Don’t put too much stock in his words if they really were a reaction to a disagreement.
If your husband has given this notion some thought and he’s expressed his desire to end the marriage in a succinct and calm way, then, yes, you do have reason to be very concerned. Anytime a man puts careful consideration into what he’s feeling, that shows that it’s something that he cares deeply for. Divorce can feel like the best option to a man who is emotionally disconnected from his spouse or a man who feels that there is nothing left to give within the marriage.
What Should You Do If Your Husband Thinks He Wants a Divorce?
Ignoring your husband’s desire to separate or divorce will not change the problem at hand. Arguing over the issue will do more harm than good. You can’t bully or guilt him into staying with you by bringing up what the collapse of the marriage will do to the children. He has already thought that through. You must work with him to find a solution that will give you more time to work on the relationship.
Separation may feel like the beginning of the end of your marriage, but it’s important to see it as a positive when the other option is filing for divorce. If your husband suggests the end of dissolving the marriage right now, ask him to consider a separation. This will allow you both time to 
think about the future of the marriage and it will also grant you the opportunity to work on changing his mind and getting him to feel close to you again.
I want you to look at your husband’s desire to divorce as a wake up call for your sleeping marriage. To this point you both may have been taking each other for granted. Now is the time to face the demons that exist in your relationship and work as a united pair to resolve them.
It may take more work on your part for now, but view it as an investment in your family’s future. Many couples come back from the brink of divorce to have fulfilling, deeply connected marriages. You can have that as well.
My own marriage suffered through a very difficult period. You can read more about my personal experience with how I got my husband to love me more here.